After my father died I reflected on what gifts he had given. The kind of gifts that live on the inside., not always visible to the world. Gentleness was what came to mind. Gentleness in the way he lived, because that is what he did, he just lived. He wasn't extremely ambitious, nor successful, but he loved and was loved. He taught me gentleness, without even trying. Thanks for this.
Thanks for this. I'm on a week off from work and had packed it out with activities but realised at the last minute that I just needed to flow, and slow. The results have been a week that has, so far, led me in all kinds of soft, magical moments. And given me time to read more interesting articles on Substack! x
Flow and slow - what delicious words. So glad you've recognised that before the week started & hurray for soft magical moments! Here's to more of them. Lovely to 'meet' you Sally & thanks for sharing.
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Thank you for all this good advice, Satya! Like you, I have a "what have you accomplished today" meter that is always running, and I'm hard on myself when I simply can't power through whatever is challenging me. My determination and perseverance are also some of my best traits, so it's never simple! I'm grateful to Buddhism for teaching me ways to step back and notice what I'm doing or thinking, to try to stay in the moment rather than getting caught in spinning thoughts, and that there is always a space in which to breathe and come back to center. It's also easy to forget all those things, so reading a list like yours is very helpful, as well as giving me a sense of not being alone with these issues!
Oh Satya, there are no words to convey what this essay means to me. I cried most of the way through. Bear with me a moment. I hate to fly. I am a magnet for turbulence. Twice I’ve had stewards tell me the flight we’re on is the worst they’ve seen. So I decided to over come the fear and took an assignment as a corporate trainer to overcome my weaknesses. I threw in the towel 2 years later when the flight I was on was so bad two of the seats in front of me snapped loose and half the overhead baggage doors flew open dumping their contents on the passengers. So much for facing my fear. Now I have been a caregiver for 2 yrs as my husband faces an uncertain future. The last few months I’ve vacillated between abject failure, raging anger, hopelessness and a chronic tiredness. Your essay feels like a life vest. I will be keeping it close at hand. I am not without friends and support so why is it some days I just don’t have the patience and energy for their attempts of support. Your essay helps me understand things better and today definitely requires dark chocolate. A lot of dark chocolate. Love and light 🙏
I'm trying to learn to be more gentle with my feelings, a lifelong struggle. I do a lot of judging myself for having certain feelings. Falling into the false belief that there's a way to "control" my emotions. So I'm trying to accept my feelings more. Understand, as you said, that they're there to help me. And then, if I can, let them go.
Sounds great - yes, I think of parts as I read what you've written - that the feelings arise for good reasons, and that they are attempting to help you... as are the parts that judge the feelings! Hope you can find some more space for them all to be as they are x
They are such powerful lines aren't they Priya, I wonder if partly because it's so counter cultural to be told this. Yes, me too. Thanks for being here!
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After my father died I reflected on what gifts he had given. The kind of gifts that live on the inside., not always visible to the world. Gentleness was what came to mind. Gentleness in the way he lived, because that is what he did, he just lived. He wasn't extremely ambitious, nor successful, but he loved and was loved. He taught me gentleness, without even trying. Thanks for this.
It sounds like he gifted you something VERY special. And I'm sure it'll keep rippling outwards. Thanks for sharing Jeff and good to have you here.
Thanks for this. I'm on a week off from work and had packed it out with activities but realised at the last minute that I just needed to flow, and slow. The results have been a week that has, so far, led me in all kinds of soft, magical moments. And given me time to read more interesting articles on Substack! x
Flow and slow - what delicious words. So glad you've recognised that before the week started & hurray for soft magical moments! Here's to more of them. Lovely to 'meet' you Sally & thanks for sharing.
Fine writer and reader of Substack—we are starting a movement to get a poetry section added to the platform. Can I ask, are you with us?
https://substack.com/profile/10309929-david/note/c-15579327
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Thank you for your time and support.
Love and appreciation,
David
I'm with you - will comment on your post.
Thank you for all this good advice, Satya! Like you, I have a "what have you accomplished today" meter that is always running, and I'm hard on myself when I simply can't power through whatever is challenging me. My determination and perseverance are also some of my best traits, so it's never simple! I'm grateful to Buddhism for teaching me ways to step back and notice what I'm doing or thinking, to try to stay in the moment rather than getting caught in spinning thoughts, and that there is always a space in which to breathe and come back to center. It's also easy to forget all those things, so reading a list like yours is very helpful, as well as giving me a sense of not being alone with these issues!
Yes, good not to throw the baby out with the bathwater... glad it was helpful!
Thank you, I am a work in progress and your words help me to choose.
Oh Satya, there are no words to convey what this essay means to me. I cried most of the way through. Bear with me a moment. I hate to fly. I am a magnet for turbulence. Twice I’ve had stewards tell me the flight we’re on is the worst they’ve seen. So I decided to over come the fear and took an assignment as a corporate trainer to overcome my weaknesses. I threw in the towel 2 years later when the flight I was on was so bad two of the seats in front of me snapped loose and half the overhead baggage doors flew open dumping their contents on the passengers. So much for facing my fear. Now I have been a caregiver for 2 yrs as my husband faces an uncertain future. The last few months I’ve vacillated between abject failure, raging anger, hopelessness and a chronic tiredness. Your essay feels like a life vest. I will be keeping it close at hand. I am not without friends and support so why is it some days I just don’t have the patience and energy for their attempts of support. Your essay helps me understand things better and today definitely requires dark chocolate. A lot of dark chocolate. Love and light 🙏
Sending a hug (& more dark chocolate) x
I'm trying to learn to be more gentle with my feelings, a lifelong struggle. I do a lot of judging myself for having certain feelings. Falling into the false belief that there's a way to "control" my emotions. So I'm trying to accept my feelings more. Understand, as you said, that they're there to help me. And then, if I can, let them go.
Sounds great - yes, I think of parts as I read what you've written - that the feelings arise for good reasons, and that they are attempting to help you... as are the parts that judge the feelings! Hope you can find some more space for them all to be as they are x
Thank you Satya for the invitation. This was such a lovely read and reminder to go slow and gentle. Something that I’m always working on.
Me too : ) Glad you liked it Linn.
Wonderful list, Satya. And miigwech for the shout-out! 💚
Miigwech back at ya 🙏🏻
This reminds me of the lines from Mary Oliver’s Wild Geese :
You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
I’ve always interpreted this as a go gently.
They are such powerful lines aren't they Priya, I wonder if partly because it's so counter cultural to be told this. Yes, me too. Thanks for being here!
Pleased I took time out to read this before continuing with my working day. That counts as going gently, I think!
Undoubtedly 😊
Hi Lee sorry to hear about super-budget mode. It's very kind of you to write. If you'd like a free subscription for a while you'd be very welcome, just send me a message satya@satyarobyn.com & I'll hook you up 🙏🏻