Great post. Thank you. I can relate. I have the same two parts ~ wanting to watch Netflix all day versus working too hard. Sometimes I watch Netflix while I’m writing. The inner child finds it so hard to relax. I keep reassuring her it is safe now. I am learning to do that little by little.
Thanks Lisa. So happy that you are looking after your little one/s. It's many lifetimes work, I think, but a little looking after can make a big difference. Good to have you here.
Woah, needed to read this today and how! Who knew my cookie-eating side and my diet-Hitler side were actually engaged in a tug-of-war that could capsize my whole ship? LOVED your analogies. There’s always a way to bring peace by simply listening and giving a little love to our feuding parts :)
Oh Satya you are on point . . . Again. As you know things are looking so much better (yes he’s still in remission) and yet the medical side of my husbands life continues to go sideways. My sadness at what he is going through fight with my need for patience and keeping the house and yard going, and self care. I do prioritize my sleep, diet and a smidge of exercise but it’s the mental fatigue of my tugging parts that exhausts me. I remind myself this too shall pass. Had it not been for finding my spiritual home I would be hiding in a closet somewhere having to be coaxed out with dark chocolate. Thank you thank you thank you. 🙏🪷
Sounds so tough. Yes - those tugging parts use up SO much energy. I'm hoping you keep the closet and chocolate for emergencies, and lean into the light... it's always there. Namo Amida Bu x
A lovely piece. Thank you for sharing it with us. Also, I agree with you: "Janky" is an excellent word! To me it is the sound a janky piece of equipment makes when it is working!
Your point about perfectionism vs. embracing our 'janky' side made me laugh out loud! I'm definitely a perfectionist, and it's so exhausting trying to maintain that facade all the time. Maybe it's time to embrace a little more imperfection in my life. Thanks for the permission, Satya!
Great post. Thank you. I can relate. I have the same two parts ~ wanting to watch Netflix all day versus working too hard. Sometimes I watch Netflix while I’m writing. The inner child finds it so hard to relax. I keep reassuring her it is safe now. I am learning to do that little by little.
Thanks Lisa. So happy that you are looking after your little one/s. It's many lifetimes work, I think, but a little looking after can make a big difference. Good to have you here.
Woah, needed to read this today and how! Who knew my cookie-eating side and my diet-Hitler side were actually engaged in a tug-of-war that could capsize my whole ship? LOVED your analogies. There’s always a way to bring peace by simply listening and giving a little love to our feuding parts :)
I'm glad Mohika! Yes absolutely x
Oh Satya you are on point . . . Again. As you know things are looking so much better (yes he’s still in remission) and yet the medical side of my husbands life continues to go sideways. My sadness at what he is going through fight with my need for patience and keeping the house and yard going, and self care. I do prioritize my sleep, diet and a smidge of exercise but it’s the mental fatigue of my tugging parts that exhausts me. I remind myself this too shall pass. Had it not been for finding my spiritual home I would be hiding in a closet somewhere having to be coaxed out with dark chocolate. Thank you thank you thank you. 🙏🪷
Sounds so tough. Yes - those tugging parts use up SO much energy. I'm hoping you keep the closet and chocolate for emergencies, and lean into the light... it's always there. Namo Amida Bu x
Great explanation of IFS! I'm loving that this radical method of understanding ourselves is gaining more visibility.
Thanks Megan. Yes, me too!
A lovely piece. Thank you for sharing it with us. Also, I agree with you: "Janky" is an excellent word! To me it is the sound a janky piece of equipment makes when it is working!
Ah glad we're fellow janky fans! It is!! Good to see you Dylan hope all's well.
Your point about perfectionism vs. embracing our 'janky' side made me laugh out loud! I'm definitely a perfectionist, and it's so exhausting trying to maintain that facade all the time. Maybe it's time to embrace a little more imperfection in my life. Thanks for the permission, Satya!
Here's to more imperfection - that's where the pearls come from!
But peace is only possible but it is not a choice.
Poor punctuation on my part. 🙁 I was reflecting that peace is not sitting on a shelf waiting to be chosen. Grace perhaps.
Yes, makes sense. Sometimes I feel like peace IS the shelf - it just gets so cluttered! and yes, we can't manipulate it... it's offered...
I'm not sure I understand - peace is only possible when it's not a choice?