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Satya, your exploration of the "Judgy Judgepants" part and the transformative power of curiosity really resonated with me. It's a beautiful reminder that when we approach our inner critic with curiosity rather than judgment, we open the door to self-compassion and understanding. It's like extending a hand to a scared and lonely part of ourselves instead of pushing it away. I've found that this approach can lead to profound shifts in perspective and a greater sense of inner peace.

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Beautifully put 🙏🏻

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I’ve read Dick Schwartz’s books on IFS and find it fascinating and illuminating. I have never worked with a trained IFS therapist, but I have identified some of my own parts and I find it immensely helpful in finding love, understanding, and compassion for all my parts. I’m excited to read more of your work!

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Thanks Priscilla - maybe you'll catch the IFS bug even more!

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Lovely. IFS never really clicked for me because it felt like reifying "activations" that didn't need to be reified. But there something to be said about reifying in order to see more clearly its contours so that they can be let go more completely

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Love this. Love the bunnies. They are the perfect counterpart to Judgey judgepants. (Who might be a close cousin to my internal Mr. Crankypants)

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I think I have a Mr Crankypants too 😂

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"I realized that I was feeling insecure, and afraid of how others might be judging me."

This line cut DEEP.

I've never heard of IFS before this post, but I'm so glad I did. Maybe, just maybe, I can begin the journey to bettering myself without judging others. Beautifully written and enlightening. Thank you for sharing, Satya.

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Glad you're here!

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Love the bunny breaks, perfect for pausing to reflect, thanks Satya xo

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I look back now and realise how lucky I was early in my training to study with Transpersonal therapists who had a grounding in psychosynthesis. Assagioli’s parts theory that IFS is based on, is so powerful and transformative. I’m considering a refresher course so that I can use it more accurately in my writing and I’m really drawn to studying IFS too.

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Thank you!!! 🌸🫶

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My pleasure!

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I've seen a bit about IFS but this shows so clearly what it is about, really fascinating

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Glad you think so. It is fascinating stuff and, in my experience, very practically helpful.

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This part: "core of each of us is an unbreakable, remarkable, luminous body of energy which exudes compassion and wisdom."

I love this. I did some IFS work some years with a coach and I'm enjoying re-learning, and remembering it. Such a great perspective.

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Glad you got a taste of it!

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Totally agree with you, Satya - IFS transformed my therapy practice and my life. And now, it’s at the heart of my fiction writing. It’s the best!

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Hurray for that! 😊

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I love it when you talk parts.😊 It’s what drew me here to your lovely corner of Substack. I’ve know about parts since I was a young kid. IFS is my go to for any issue that arises for me, and what a change it’s made in my life. It’s my reason for my Substack “Partly There,” and I’m glad you were one of the first people I discovered here. Thank you! 🙏

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Ah, hurray for that Deb : ) so glad you also caught the IFS bug. Thanks for being here!

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